“Thus, they bring judgment on themselves because they have broken their first pledge. Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense saying things they out not to” (1 Timothy 5:12-13).
Gossiping is a sin, and it is unpleasing to God. When we gossip, we turn our minds over to Satan, the father of lies. Proverb 20:19 tells us that a gossip betrays a confidence; so, avoid a man [or woman] who talks too much.”
I reiterate engaging in gossip is sinful and it could ruin a person’s reputation or cause them to live in unnecessary embarrassment. What does Proverb 11:12-13 say about gossiping? “A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue. A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps secrets.”
A gossiper is someone who discloses personal information or secrets without permission, and they often twist words to appease itching ears. Be mindful, regardless of excuses for sharing “none of their business” is sinful even if no harm was intended.
Is someone guilty of gossiping if they are not participating but listening to others gossip about people? What action, if any, would you take if your close friends have been sharing your personal information with known gossipers? “A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends” (Proverbs 16:28).
Many families and friends have been ruined by people looking for opportunities to destroy others. Sadly, some people look for opportunities to gossip and they also feel empowered when destroying others.
Why? “A fool’s mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts” (Proverb 18:7-8).
“The way of fools seem right to them, but the wise listen to advice. Fools show their annoyance at once, but the prudent overlook an insult. An honest witness tells the truth, but a false witness tells lies. The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.’
Perhaps most of us, in no all, have been guilty at least once of engaging in gossiping, or just listening to others gossip. Why do people feel a need to make others look bad, or embarrassed, by sharing their personal details? Does listening only resolve us from sinning?
‘Deceit is in the hearts of those who plot evil, but those who promote peace have joy. No harm overtakes the righteous, but the wicked have their fill of trouble'” (Proverbs 12:12-21).
Let us biblically season our words prior to sharing them.
– Tangie T. Woods