It Is My Story To Share If I Choose!

Have you ever heard, or said to someone, “It is my story to share if I want?” Have others ever invaded your personal boundaries by evoking interest in your story before you decide to share it with them?

I saw a Facebook post that got my attention because I once struggled with it. The post read “LEARN TO BE OKAY WITH PEOPLE NOT KNOWING YOUR STORY. YOU HAVE NOTHING TO PROVE TO ANYONE.”

Struggling or concerning yourself with opinions of others is a waste of intellectual energy. Tangie T. Woods

I had to learn it was okay others not knowing my story. Why? I shared general information with people whom I believed were friends until they shared misleading or false claims of what I said. It was then I became leary of “friendships” and decided it was time to protect my emotional, physical and spiritual boundaries. I also learned it was okay not answering every question addressed to me. It was mentally exhausting involving myself in foolishness in my days of ignorance trying to prove how others lied!

One of several examples is when I complimented Tarell’s dress. I shared the compliment with Abigail since Tarell had just walked passed us (names changed in blog.) The following day, Tarell was very upset with me. I questioned her sudden negative attitude towards me and was told she heard that I had been talking about her. She further stated if I have something to say about her, say it to her. I asked her why she so upset about me complimenting her dress?

“Compliment! That is not what I heard,” she said. It was obvious Abigail shared a misleading claim of our very brief conversation. The three of us met for Abigail to repeat my exact words. She did, and Tarell was very apologetic after hearing the truth of me saying how the dress she wore the previous day was beautiful. Remember to consider the source who brings news to you…

It comes a time when we must stop struggling emotionally with others’ opinions that cannot get us from earth to glory. My encouragement to you is not allow others to make you feel uncomfortable when you choose not to share your story. Be thankful if they become upset. Why? Their action reveals potential gossipers, whispers, backbiters and word twisters who do not have your best interest in mind.

I am not naïve, nor am I as trusting, as I once were. Are you? We must get to a point of understanding other people’s feelings and opinions are not our problems. It is part of their story and is between them and God. Unfortunately, sometimes we make it part of our story when we allow it to disturb our peace. We must be vigilant of the daily war for our soul; and at all cost, we must remain who we are in the Lord and seeking only His approval. “…Go in peace. [My] journey has the LORD’s approval.” –Judges 18:6

Remember, if you want to live look up at God, not at others. Followers of Christ are subjected to everything Jesus went through making Christianity a not so easy journey. Therefore, do not let distractions waste your valuable time on anything contrary to your walk with the Lord.

One of many advantages of blogging is being able to tell my stories as they truly are…

Do you struggle with not being okay sharing your story? Do you concern yourself with others’ opinions? Do you feel compel to answer every questions? How do you handle intrusiveness from others?

BIBLICAL REFERENCES:

“A scoundrel plots evil, and on their lips it is like a scorching fire. A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.” (Proverbs 16:27-28)

“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (Galatians 1:10)

Author:

Christian Blogger, Wife of Minister F. Woods, mother of three adult children and grandmother of one granddaughter

41 thoughts on “It Is My Story To Share If I Choose!

      1. Blogging has been such a blessing to me to share real life experiences in hope of encouraging others as well as an outlet for me. We are apart of a wonderful community. Thank you for all you do…

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  1. I really like your beautiful blog. A pleasure to come stroll on your pages. A great discovery and a very interesting blog. I will come back to visit you. Do not hesitate to visit my universe. See you soon. 🙂

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  2. I can relate here……I have learned that very few people get the honor of speaking into our lives about anything!! So yes, we don’t have to reveal everything……and let the absolute trust be reserved for our GOD Almighty!!!

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  3. Oh my gosh, Tangie, LOL. I’m glad I came tonight, I was like I need a break, let me see what Tangie has been up too.
    Right on the nail! This is so sad, and almost unbelievable that people behave in such a manner. Really. If you ask me, I grew up baptist in a ALL black church. I saw these type of behavior all the time. Now that I go to a predominantly mixed church, I see it amongst other believers.
    But I believe that God is calling us to be different. He doesn’t want us to sit around playing church, especially now, when there are so many souls at stake. We need to be accountable to each other, and support each other.
    Lies are of satan, he strategizes and organizes way to do it, and makes it affect us. But we are covered by the blood of Jesus and have to do our part, pray, and be people of integrity.

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    1. Greetings, sad indeed. It can be expected outside the Lord’s Body but inside these things should not be happening. I have heard a few people say if Christians are doing worldly things then they will remain sinners enjoying the pleasures of the world and go to Hell. This is so sad! I believe this is why God is so anger and is allowing painful spasms such as the coronavirus and many weather disasters. Christians indeed must wake up and provide SON light to a dark world. Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts. Enjoy your evening and remain safe.

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  4. Great post. Thanks for sharing part of your story. I recently moved and have been trying to make new friends. It’s a constant struggle not to over share. I was at a small gathering and was completely offended by some of the statements that were made. I eventually had to say hold up what you are stating is not completely true. They continued to push their opinion on the matter and I left.

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    1. Thank you and you are welcome. I appreciate you reading and sharing your recent experience. Do not learn the hard way like I did trying to make friends. We cannot make friends instead friendship develops over years. Be yourself and let acquaintances and associates become friends if it is meant to be. Remember, wolves in sheep clothing; do not disclose too much personal information. Have a great night and remain safe.

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  5. Thank you Tangie for sharing this life changing truths. I’m picking this up as my mantra from today ‘it’s my story to share if I choose’

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  6. Great verses Tangie and thanks for the encouragement. I actually have a little figurine that says, “It’s between me and God”. We do have to be careful what we share with others and be led by the Holy Spirit.

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  7. This is definitely a thought provoking article Mrs Tangie. What I do to handle “over intrusiveness” on my matters is I share a version of the story that suits the kind of person I’m speaking with. For instance, if it’s close family, I can share all details with facts however, if it’s friends especially the ones I suspect are being envious, I just share a wider perspective and leave them guessing. I’m very wary of jealous and toxic people in my life.

    And of course, I’ll be a hypocrite if I say that I haven’t been intrusive on some occasions. If I see that I’m wrong, then I pull back totally.

    May God continue to lead us. Amen.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your comments. I agree and have learn what to share and not to share with others. It took me a long time and many snake bites but I finally got it.

      I used to be very intrusive with our adult children, but have stepped back because I did not like it when it was done to me. I understood, honestly, with my husband’s advice, that being their mother does not make it right for me to invade their lives with questions I did not need answers to.

      Amen to God continuing to lead us. Remain safe.

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    1. Thank you for reading and sharing comments. I was afraid for a long time to leave my comfort zone of sharing my stories (health and spiritual journeys). However, with encouragement from from my husband, spiritual mothers, children and late mentor Ruth Williams, I finally allowed the Holy Spirit to guide my words to encourage others as well as being encouraged by fellow bloggers. It has been an amazing journey.

      When I click on your site I get error message “Sorry, the page you were looking for does not exist or is not available. We performed a web search for “My Diva Blog” and here’s what we found.”

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      1. U are welcome, it’s good u came out from your comfort zone. My blog is mydivab.wordpress.com which is mydivablog together, it’s not separated.
        If it is My Diva Blog, then there will be error. Thanks for letting me know this, I really appreciate 👏

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