Have you ever heard, or said to someone, “It is my story to share if I want?” Have others ever invaded your personal boundaries by evoking interest in your story before you decide to share it with them?
I saw a Facebook post that got my attention because I once struggled with it. The post read “LEARN TO BE OKAY WITH PEOPLE NOT KNOWING YOUR STORY. YOU HAVE NOTHING TO PROVE TO ANYONE.”
Struggling or concerning yourself with opinions of others is a waste of intellectual energy. Tangie T. Woods
I had to learn it was okay others not knowing my story. Why? I shared general information with people whom I believed were friends until they shared misleading or false claims of what I said. It was then I became leary of “friendships” and decided it was time to protect my emotional, physical and spiritual boundaries. I also learned it was okay not answering every question addressed to me. It was mentally exhausting involving myself in foolishness in my days of ignorance trying to prove how others lied!
One of several examples is when I complimented Tarell’s dress. I shared the compliment with Abigail since Tarell had just walked passed us (names changed in blog.) The following day, Tarell was very upset with me. I questioned her sudden negative attitude towards me and was told she heard that I had been talking about her. She further stated if I have something to say about her, say it to her. I asked her why she so upset about me complimenting her dress?
“Compliment! That is not what I heard,” she said. It was obvious Abigail shared a misleading claim of our very brief conversation. The three of us met for Abigail to repeat my exact words. She did, and Tarell was very apologetic after hearing the truth of me saying how the dress she wore the previous day was beautiful. Remember to consider the source who brings news to you…
It comes a time when we must stop struggling emotionally with others’ opinions that cannot get us from earth to glory. My encouragement to you is not allow others to make you feel uncomfortable when you choose not to share your story. Be thankful if they become upset. Why? Their action reveals potential gossipers, whispers, backbiters and word twisters who do not have your best interest in mind.
I am not naïve, nor am I as trusting, as I once were. Are you? We must get to a point of understanding other people’s feelings and opinions are not our problems. It is part of their story and is between them and God. Unfortunately, sometimes we make it part of our story when we allow it to disturb our peace. We must be vigilant of the daily war for our soul; and at all cost, we must remain who we are in the Lord and seeking only His approval. “…Go in peace. [My] journey has the LORD’s approval.” –Judges 18:6
Remember, if you want to live look up at God, not at others. Followers of Christ are subjected to everything Jesus went through making Christianity a not so easy journey. Therefore, do not let distractions waste your valuable time on anything contrary to your walk with the Lord.
One of many advantages of blogging is being able to tell my stories as they truly are…
Do you struggle with not being okay sharing your story? Do you concern yourself with others’ opinions? Do you feel compel to answer every questions? How do you handle intrusiveness from others?
“A scoundrel plots evil, and on their lips it is like a scorching fire. A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.” (Proverbs 16:27-28)
“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (Galatians 1:10)