“Do not be misled; “Bad company corrupts good character. Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning; for there are some who are ignorant of God; I say this to your shame.” (I Corinthians 15:33-34)
Rumor and gossip are synonymous and the Bible has a lot to say about it. What is gossiping? It is unconfirmed stories widely shared, and most likely not factual since a juicy lie sounds better than the truth. As stories spread, each person has liberty to share their version to keep gossiping alive.
“There are not different versions of truth, only different beliefs and opinions.”
– Tracy, Fellow Blogger
Have you ever been a participant in gossiping? If so, how did you feel in the midst of it? Why do you think “Christians” betray those who trust and confide in them?
I was horrified to overhear mature Christians negatively talk about me. One of them mistakenly pocket dialed my cell phone and their entire conversation was recorded on my voicemail. Thankfully, it was a Sunday evening and my cell phone was still on silent; otherwise, I would have never known how they honestly felt about me. Hmmm, was it a pocket dial mistake, or divine intervention? Either way, I was thankful to hear exactly what people thought of me since they never took time to know me. I did not want to be guilty of gossiping; therefore, my husband, a minister, is the only other person who heard the recording.
As I write this brief reminder about gossiping, their behavior serves as a reminder that “Not everyone who saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of Heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in Heaven. (Matthew 7:21)
Gossiping is definitely not the will of the Father. “A gossip betrays a confidence so avoid anyone who talks too much.” (Proverbs 20:19)
It is definitely true that those who gossip with you will gossip of you. I have been snake bitten by gossipers known as Christians, family members, acquaintances and former co-workers; and perhaps you have as well. Gossipers did not know that everything, or some things, had been confided with their unspiritual partner in crime came back to bite them. How? Individuals repeated things back to me that I only told specific people to test their trustworthiness. For this reason, my words are kept to a minimum in conversations.
The antidote for spreading rumors can be found in Proverbs 26:20-28, it reads, “Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down. As coals to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome person for kindling strife. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts. Like a coat in of silver dross on earthenware are fervent lips with an evil heart. Enemies disguise themselves with their lips, but in their hearts, they harbor deceit. Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts. Their malice may be concealed by deception, but their wickedness will be exposed in the assembly. Whoever digs a pit will fall into it; if someone rolls a stone, it will roll back on them. A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin.”
We will never stop rumors and lies from spreading. However, we can refuse to participate, and not give into our sinful nature of listening to “juicy” information that would gain us ungodly attention. If we are guilty of this sinful act, we must recognize the selfishness of that desire and repent (Psalm 19:14).
When someone tells you something about another person, or tells you what someone said about you, stop them and say do not tell me what someone said about me, tell me why they felt comfortable telling you. It works!
I would like to hear your thoughts on this subject of gossiping. Have a wonderful weekend and remain safe.