Are you aware of your friends and frenemies relationships? Do you know when mutual friends of frenemies are betraying you? I enjoy watching British shows and just started watching a new series titled ‘Sticks and Stones.’ It is about a company downsizing and will get rid of one of four employees in Sales. Three coworkers get together and plan to bully Thomas, Sales Manager, into becoming unstable so he is fired and their jobs are secure.
In the meantime, one of the three coworkers befriend Thomas and earns his trust and inform him not to trust the other two because she alone is trying to keep him employed. Eventually, Thomas files a bullying claim against the two believing his friend, whom he shared personal information about his life, would confirm his claim in a meeting with Human Resources personnel and Sales Director.
However, she does not and Thomas suddenly appears to have a nervous breakdown and falls on the floor; then two of his coworkers and Human Resources personnel leave the office. His friend gives Sales Director her cell phone and he step outside to call Thomas’ wife. Thomas’ friend was left alone with him; but unbeknownst to her, he turns on his cell phone recorder realizing she was actually his frenemy after not confirming his bullying claim. She not only confirms Thomas’ belief but tells him she was the mastermind behind the plan to get rid of him.
After Thomas’ wife picks him up, he texts Sales Director and frenemy entire recorded conversation of her admission and implicating coworkers. Sales Director replies to Thomas offering six figures to remain quiet and promises to fire his three bullies. I am eagerly awaiting episode four. “Whoever digs a pit will fall into it; if someone rolls a stone, it will roll back on them. A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin.” (Proverbs 26-27)
What are frenemies? UrbanDictionary.com describes frenemies as a person in your life that you get along with and enjoy overall company but they will cut you down with virtually any opportunity with mostly backhanded compliments or jabs. They always root for you to do good but just not better than them. Normally stemmed from some jealousy to any or all aspects of your life (similar to a hater but get along with them).
Have you ever been guilty of gossiping about a friend or listening to gossip without engaging in conversations? Does it make one innocent if listening without engaging? If you are a converted Christian have you set boundaries to lessen the taste of evil delicacies of frenemies? Romans 12:1-2 tells us to present our bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God and be not conformed to the world but be transformed by the renewing of the mind to prove what is good and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
What are your thoughts on those supposedly transformed and renewed minds in Christ but are captivated by every defile word and action that come out of mouth of those who want nothing to do with God? But again, “Not everyone that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of Heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in Heaven.” (Matthew 7:21).
Have you ever been guilty of inflicting someone with hurtful words or action? What poisonous or deadly flaming arrows carrying negative words can someone shoot in your direction that would cause you to dislike someone else?
Based on my online research when someone is bitten by a poisonous snake the venom enters the bloodstream and starts to eat and destroy body cells then eventually affects the heart while victim experiences excruciating pain. This also applies to victims suffering tremendously from our words while frenemies let loose and slither back into their hole leaving others discouraged, angry, hostile, sad, disappointed, depressed, or leave the church. This might sound harsh but it is true.
Proverbs 4:16 is true to the core that some people are robbed of sleep until they make another person stumble. In fact, they cannot rest until their evil deed to hurt another is done. Does this sound like anyone you know?
We should always be mindful there is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known. What we say and do in darkness will become light because God is still taking notes (Matthew 7:13-14); and almost everyone has cell phones and other types of electronic recording devices.
But true friends do not care about electronic recording devices because they always lift us up when no one else even notices we are down. They do not gossip nor allow opinions of others to cause them to behave negatively towards another person, and definitely not caused them to be removed from the arms of Jesus.
Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt is a lie we did not understand as children. As adults, we know words hurt and could also be deadly.
Please share your thoughts on the following questions: what are some dangers of having mutual friends of frenemies? How do you avoid pitfalls of those doing Satan’s bidding?
How do you stop someone from coming to you with gossip? For me, I now tell gossipers do not tell me what someone else said about me but tell me why they feel comfortable telling you. Hmmm!
Few words speak volume. –Tangie T. Woods
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