Greetings everyone, I hope you had a wonderful week, and your weekend is off to a great start of enjoyment. As for me, I am physically exhausted and resting today. This blog is lengthy because I have so much to share about a deep and powerful emotion.
I thought about writing on grief but decided against it a month ago. However, my mind changed yesterday after seeing Facebook posts by Sister Sherry and Leanna. Leanna and I worked together on Maxwell and Gunter Air Force Bases. Her mother died at the end of last year so she too is grieving. Sister Robinson, her mother, was also one of my spiritual mothers in Montgomery.
On yesterday morning, I spoke with a spiritual sister who funeralized her young son last weekend. She joyously shared memories of him and talked about her harmonious relationship with the Lord. Interestingly, she mentioned some were surprised to see her in worship service a day after burying him.
Surprised? Why would Christians be surprised when saints attend worship service, regardless of their situation? Brother Woods and I were in worship services after burying our mothers. As a matter of fact, he eulogized both of them and preached the following days; and the burial for my mother was six hours one way in Montgomery, Alabama.
I think sometimes we allow our emotion of grief to supersede our allegiance to God, and fail to understand that able bodied converted Christians need not forsake the assembly of collectively worshiping God (Hebrews 10:24-25). We pledged our allegiance to God when we obeyed the Gospel of Jesus through the plan of salvation. Luke 14:26-27, tells us to count the cost to be a follower of Jesus. Christianity is not an easy journey and many will not understand our responses to life’s events.
My spiritual sister mentioned how my blogs encourage and uplift her. But without her knowledge, she uplifted me. She did not know minutes before she called me that I had received a text message from my cousin Faye informing me that our young cousin had died; from a medical condition I also have. Sis, I know you are reading this blog, thank you for your phone call, love, encouragement and support.
The icing on the cake was receiving yesterday’s devotional from Sister Copeland, one of my spiritual mothers in Gainesville. The devotion was titled “In harmony with God, I am whole and healthy.” It perfectly fitted in with the subject of grief. The devotional read as follows:
“When all parts of myself work together in harmony with God, my entire life reverberates like a beautiful song. Regardless of outer conditions, I stay in tune with Spirit and connected to my innate health and wellness. If I feel unwell, I focus on healing and remember that I am already whole because of my union with God. Whole is my natural state, and healing is movement in the direction of my authentic self. I let go of what I am not and what no longer serves me. I deny the power of any of my thoughts that are not in harmony with divine mind, and I use affirmations to help align my being with [the] Spirit. I am in harmony with God, and I am healing [from all grief]. “It is the Spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are Spirit and they are life.” (John 6:63). I know you are reading this blog Sister Copeland, thank you very much for your love, support, encouragement, words of wisdom and for daily devotionals. I do not respond via text but I definitely read them.
Even though Hebrews 9:27 tells us it is appointed unto men to die, grief is a powerful and deep emotion that affects us in the loss of loved ones. Again, when we are in harmony with the Lord, comfort is within us and life continues with the peace that passes all understanding.
Have you ever made negative assumptions about someone who grieved differently than you? Does it mean they loved the deceased less if no tears are shed?
Ending with biblical examples of those who felt grief? Peter felt grief when Jesus asked him three times, “Do you love me more than these?” Paul grieved over unrepentant sin in the churches. And Jesus grieved over the hardness of people’s hearts in refusing to accept Him as the Son of God. Jesus was also deeply grieved at the tremendous ordeal He had to face. Are you aware that our ungodly attitudes and sinful behaviors grieve the Holy Spirit? How do you handle your grieving season?
Luke 14:26-27; Psalm 126:5-6; Philippians 4:6-7; Luke 22:61-62; Mark 3:5; Mark 14:33-36; Ephesians 4:30; Hebrews 10:24-25; and John 21:17