Have you ever heard, or said to someone, “It’s my story and I will share if I want to?” Have others ever invaded your personal boundaries by evoking interest in your story before you decided to share it with them? How do you handle people’s intrusiveness?
I recently saw a Facebook post that got my attention because I once struggled with it too. The post read “LEARN TO BE OKAY WITH PEOPLE NOT KNOWING YOUR STORY. YOU HAVE NOTHING TO PROVE TO ANYONE.”
I had to learn it is okay with others not knowing my story. Why? I shared general information with people whom I truly believed were my friends until they shared negative versions of what I said. It was then, I became leery of our friendship and decided it was time to protect my emotional, physical and spiritual boundaries.
Struggling or concerning yourself with opinions of others is a waste of intellectual energy. –Tangie T. Woods
One of several examples is when I complimented [Tarell’s] beautiful dress. However, my mistake was that I shared the compliment with [Abigail]; names changed for purpose of this blog. The following day, Tarell was very upset with me, and I questioned her sudden attitude. She said, “I heard you were talking about me! If you have something to say about me say it to me.” I asked her why was she so upset about me complimenting her dress? “Compliment, that’s not what I heard,” she said. It was obvious Abigail had shared a negative version of our very brief conversation. The three of us met for Abigail to repeat my exact words. She did, and Tarell was very apologetic after hearing the truth.
It comes a time when we must stop struggling emotionally with others’ opinions that cannot save us from eternal damnation. My encouragement for you is to not allow others to make you feel uncomfortable when you choose not to share your story. Be thankful if they become upset. Why? Their action just revealed potential gossipers, whispers, backbiters and word twisters who do not have your best interest in mind.
If you want to keep a secret, keep it to yourself. —Felton D. Woods
I am not naïve, and very much aware of those disliking me for whatever reasons Satan have put in their minds. But we have to get to a point of understanding other peoples’ feelings and opinions are not our problems. It is part of their story between them and God. But we make it part of our story if we are bothered by them. Even with this knowledge, I still remain who I am seeking approval of the Lord for my actions, thoughts and deeds. “…Go in peace. [My] journey has the LORD’s approval.” –Judges 18:6
Be honest with yourself to understand reasons for struggling with not being okay with others not knowing your story. We are not servants of man, but of God with much work to do in His church, and leading lost souls to Christ. Our efforts should be used to ensure that our flaws are corrected and that we are in a right relationship with God.
Remember, if you want to live, look up, not at others. Followers of Christ are subjected to everything He went through making Christianity a not so easy journey. Therefore, do not let distractions waste your valuable time on anything contrary to your walk with the Lord.
“A perverse person stirs up conflict, and gossip separates close friends.” –Proverbs 16:28“
“For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.” –Galatians 1:10
“If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you.”— Proverbs 25:21-22
There are three sermons that I highly recommend you listening to titled “Honesty With Ourselves”; “Hindrance To Zeal” and “If You Want To Live Look Up.” From your Facebook account type in the URL for these sermons: fb.me//SermonsofFeltonDWoods