Have you ever been guilty of throwing deadly poisonous flaming arrows with negative words at other women? As I reflect on James 3:11, “Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring,” I sadly remember in past times when I inflicted hurt to others with my words, or the way a message was conveyed. However, I am thankful to God that I lived to receive forgiveness from those individuals, and received forgiveness from Him.
Have you ever been guilty of disliking someone you never took the time to know, but based your opinion on “someone else’s” feelings about the person? Let us be honest in response to what words can “someone else” whisper in our ears to cause us to dislike someone we do not know? One word—Satan! We must be mindful that “someone else” will not stand for us before God on Judgment Day. If this was possible, then “someone else” would hear “Depart from me ye who do works of iniquity.” Why? Because the heart of “someone else” would be in an unrepented state. We, not “someone else” are instructed to save ourselves from this untoward generation.
Please be encouraged not to take detours from your spiritual path because of “someone else.” Let “someone else” walk the path of wickedness to the road of destruction alone. We must be alert and of sober mind because our enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for [weak] “someones” to devour ~ I Peter 5:8.
Perhaps most of us have been afflicted by unwarranted flaming arrows. But as we increase in biblical knowledge and our connection to the Lord remain strong, we should be able to stay focus on letting the Holy Spirit transform us from just being women to being ladies with refine and godly attributes ~ Ephesians 4:29, Colossians 4:6, Matthew 15:11, Proverbs 15:1-2, and I Peter 5:9.
Based on my research, when someone is bitten by a poisonous snake the venom enters the bloodstream and starts to eat and destroy body cells, then eventually affects the heart while experiencing excruciating pain. While victims suffer tremendously, the slimy snake lets loose and slithers back into its hole while the victims deal with inflicted damage. Words too can be cruel leaving our victims discouraged, angry, hostile, sad, disappointed, depressed, or cause “someone else” to leave the church. The same affect comes from the list below of deadly poisonous tongues:
The Loquacious Tongue: “In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but [she] that refraineth [her] lips are wise. The tongue of the just is as choice silver; the heart of the wicked is little worth. The righteous feed many: but fools die for want of wisdom.” ~ Proverbs 10:19-21
The Lying Tongue: “Lying lips are abomination to the LORD but they that deal truly are His delight.” ~ Proverbs 12:22. “Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from telling lies.” ~ Psalm 34:13
The Manipulating Tongue: “That no [woman] go beyond and defraud [her sister] in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hast not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.” ~ I Thessalonians 4:6-7
The Divisive Tongue: For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech.” ~ I Peter 3:10 and “Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them.” ~ Titus 3:10
The Argumentative Tongue: The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” ~ Proverbs 18:21 and “It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel ~ Proverbs 20:3
The Slandering Tongue: “Whoever slanders their neighbor in secret, I will put to silence; whoever has haughty eyes and a proud heart, I will not tolerate.” ~ Proverbs 101:5
The Meddling Tongue: “We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies. Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down…” II Thessalonians 3:11-12
The Belittling Tongue: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” ~ Ephesians 4:29 and “Let all bitterness and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice.” ~ Ephesians 4:31
The Know-It-All-Tongue: “But no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.” — James 3:8-12
Conclusion, “There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known. What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs.” ~ Luke 12:2-3
If a gossiper calls to tell you what someone said, stop them by saying “Do not tell me what someone said, tell me why they felt comfortable telling you.”
“Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! ~ James 3:5
“Whoever derides their neighbor has no sense, but the one who as understanding holds their tongue. A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.” Proverbs 11:12-13