Overcoming Doubting

“But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of sea, blown and tossed by the wind” ~ James 1:6

Ladies, do you think it is possible to overcome doubting? Do you think doubting is a sin, or is a sign of weak faith? What are your thoughts on having a wavering mind, calling something into question, or hesitating?

First, it is imperative to say that I have no doubt about God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. But overcoming doubting of people and their intentions for wanting to be a part of my life is difficult due to being betrayed, rejected and humilitated in the past. Each time I feel good about being where I need to be, something triggers the doubting again.

What are your thoughts about a friend of many years who for unknown reasons starts to display signs of jealousy and spread lies with your name attached as the source? After she has been exposed as a liar, she repents and ask to be forgiven. Is it okay to doubt her loyalty when she wants to renew the friendship? Micah 7:5 tells us “Trust ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide.”

Challenging and doubting God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit are wiles of Satan. Wiles are schemes, tricks and manipulations designed to deceive us. Satan knows our weaknesses and what to use to cause us to start doubting. Clever schemes used by Satan through others are to ensnare us through temptation, threat, and intimidation. This is why Christian women must put on the whole armor of God to stand against these wiles.

For some people overcoming doubting is difficult because of past experiences of being abandoned, rejected, traumatized, humiliated and betrayed. In my last blog titled “Overcoming Weariness” you read the quote “If you don’t let the past die, it won’t let you live”; it still holds true for this blog.

How Can We Overcome Doubting? There is no reason we should suffer silently. But until the Holy Spirit is allowed to mend broken lives, doubting will continue to creep into our lives. God is in the business of restoration and He alone is more than capable of bringing us to the place called wholeness. “He restores my soul” ~ Psalm 23:3a. We must pray, believe, and trust the Holy Spirit to lock out doubting in our lives.

Finally, sometimes the seed of doubt tosses around in our minds like waves blown and tossed by the wind. Apostle Paul said that we should forget what is behind us and strive toward what is ahead; however, that is easier said than done but I am praying and striving to overcome doubting in my life.

DO NOT GIVE DOUBT THE COURTESY YOU DO NOT GIVE YOUR FAITH” ~ Author Unknown

20 thoughts on “Overcoming Doubting

  1. Great article! We have hope (1 Cor. 13:7) that when someone asks for forgiveness that they have repented. However, once we lose trust in someone, it take a long time for that trust to be regained, if it ever is. It is my understanding that it is not wrong to “have doubt” in a person, as long as we are praying and trying to encourage each other as we continue on our way. If someone asks forgiveness, we must forgive. But, we can use wisdom as we continue our dealings with that person, as by their fruits they will be known. My husband preached a good lesson this evening from 1 John, regarding loving our brethren. For me, learning to love is a lifetime endeavor.
    Thank you, Tangie!

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  2. You have touched on the problem we all struggle with and that is to be strong enough and pray and be in harmony with God enough to let the world and its’ lies not bother us. To be part of this world and yet try to be separate from it is so hard. The biggest problem with relationships is that we are dealing with broken children and if we grow up in the Lord it is much easier to see them as broken children. Your comment about a jealous friend made me think of a hurt little girl crying out for attention. A little girl in a special education class has a litany she repeats. She says but what about me? That is our maturity level most of the time little kids wanting attention, recognition, praise, and every need to be met. The friend that told lies was saying by her actions, “but what about me?” If only I could reach the place of maturity where I could say it is about her. I don’t mind what she said about me because she is hurt or mad or sad or…. I don’t want her to feel that way and I hope I can help her see that I have peace in Jesus and she can too. That will be great when we can get to the level of mostly putting other people first. It isn’t possible to be perfect but just mostly I’d like to be that mature.

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    1. Thank you for your feedback and looking at situation in a different perspective. God has brought me far in my healing and prayers for others to be healed is crucial versus focusing on what someone did to hurt me. I pain the Lord every time I walk contrary to His commandments.

      “If we don’t let the past die, it won’t let us live.” Pray without ceasing, focus on God and His will for my life, meditate on scriptures and continue daily applying them make the Christian journey easier.

      There is much work for me to do inside and outside the church. I will allow the Holy Spirit’s peace so my mind does not become a playground for Satan. My focus will be on improving self to fulfill God’s plan for my life on earth.

      Again, I appreciate your feedback.

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      1. You are very kind. And it was a great article. I’ve got to catch up on reading my blog subscriptions. I’m sure I will happily pass more of your thoughtful and encouraging blogs along again 😊

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  3. Thank you for this post. Very good thoughts and great reminders on whom to trust. We need to be conscientious to focus on ensuring our heart to trust in God and His way. If you struggle with doubt in God, you summed it up well, “’He restores my soul” ~ Psalm 23:3a. We must pray, believe, and trust the Holy Spirit to lock out doubting in our lives.”

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    1. Nicki, Referencing doubt in a friend in the blog example do you believe it is a sin to doubt someone’s sincerity after they have repeatedly lied on you and later want to renew friendship?

      For me, I would have reservations about the individual sincerity and I do not think my behavior is sinful. Surely, I must forgive them but that does not stop me from doubting, based on their pattern, that they have changed.

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      1. I think this is a great question, because it’s something most people deal with at some point in their lives. God gives us scriptures to handle forgiving others.
        “But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you.” Luke 6:27-28
        “Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. 18 If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. 19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 Therefore “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:17-21

        He also instructs us on recognizing someone’s character by their fruits and He explains to us ‘good fruits’.
        “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. 16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? 17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them.” Matthew 7:15-20
        “Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. 24 And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit..” Galatians 5:19-25

        I think the important thing to remember when dealing with this type of situation is to look to the scriptures, examine yourself, and ensure you are pleasing to God in your actions and attitude toward this person. I do not believe it is wrong to use caution with whom you trust in your life.
        We can find many scriptures to guide us in trusting others. Psalm 118:8-9, Micah 7:5, 2 Corinthians 8:22, 2 Corinthians 7:16, 2 Thessalonians 3:4.

        Hope that helps. If you would like to discuss, please let me know.

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        1. Thank you so much Nicki. I appreciate your thorough feedback. I definitely apply these scriptures and forgive others who trespass against me and when I trespass against someone else.

          I need the Lord’s forgiveness when after my repentance from sinning against Him in word, thought or deed.

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  4. Hello Mrs. “T”
    I Don’t think doubting is a sin, But I do think it can show that your faith is not as strong as it should be in the Lord.

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    1. Thank you for feedback. I would agree with faith not as strong as it should be if the doubting was in God, Jesus or the Holy Spirit.

      I believe in safe doubting because many scriptures tell us not to put trust in man. The context of the blog is with someone who has a pattern of disloyalty and dishonesty. We must be vigilant of people especially those who has proven themselves do Satan’s bidding even after they have repented. I have come to learn that not everyone who identifies as a Christian has been converted.

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    2. Have safe doubt (reservation) until person has a proven record they are a different person. Even then I think we have some reservation and the friendship would never be the same. We get hurt sometimes in the process of wanting to believe them and going back in the lion’s den with them. Be vigilant and sober and not devoured.

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